Nobody has to be the one who says it.

What happens

You're on the sofa together. Twenty minutes later, you're both still scrolling. Nobody meant for it to happen.

1. You're close. Your two phones notice each other over Bluetooth, the way earbuds find a phone.
2. You're both on your phones. Both screens have been in use for 20 minutes in a row. Which apps doesn't matter, and Proxima never knows.
3. One soft pulse. Both phones vibrate once, at the same moment, and show the same quiet question on both screens, like "What made you smile today?" or "Show each other the best thing you just saw." It changes every time, so it never gets stale.
4. You look up. You ask. Maybe you laugh. The question fades on its own. There's nothing to tap and nothing to win.

When you first set it up, you agree on what the pulse means: look up and ask each other. That small ritual is the whole idea.

What it never does

• No lecture. No screen-time charts, no guilt, no "you've been on your phone too long".
• No blame. Proxima never tells either of you who picked up their phone first or for how long.
• No scores or streaks. Nothing to keep up with and nothing to lose.
• No blocking. It doesn't take your phone away. We need our phones. It just gives you a moment back.
• No data. No account, no sign-up, no internet, no analytics. Your two phones talk only to each other. Read the privacy policy.

Why it works this way

Asking your partner to put their phone down can easily sound like a complaint. A shared pulse comes from neither of you, so it lands as an invitation instead. The research behind the idea is in the library.

What you need

Two iPhones on iOS 17 or later, one each, both with Proxima Connect installed. An Android version is on the way. Questions? See Support.